While the world is celebrating the month of love, some
people are getting their hearts broken...
So, this one is dedicated to all you sad people.
Get a grip on yourself.
I know I sound pretty harsh, but just listen.
Letting go and moving on from someone is probably the hardest thing in life. It’s
not just difficult because you lose someone, but because you also lose the sweetness in those
memories of times spent together. Sure, things didn't go the way you wanted,
but there were good times too right? This is probably why it is even harder to
let go.
So what do you do in
such a situation?
Most people tend to try and patch things up. There can be
two reasons for this. First, you are “actually” in love with that person, and
can’t let go because it’s wrong to do so. Second, you are “habitual” of that
person being in your life, so a sudden change like this leaves you harrowed and
distraught.
If the first reason is true for you, by all means, go get
em! But, if yours is reason number two, I urge you, move on. As habits can be
formed, they can be broken too.
So how did you get into this mess?
Most people have heard about this phenomenon called “beer-goggles”,
where you are so intoxicated, everything starts looking all rosy. Similarly,
one can experience “love-goggles” when entering a new relationship. You keep
ignoring all the warning signs, every little quirk looks cute to you. Mind you,
you are in for a hell of a ride! Because as soon as the ‘honeymoon period’ of
the relationship is over, you’ll start getting irritated by all the cutesy
things your girlfriend/boyfriend did. For instance, you liked her laugh, it was
eccentric... but now, you even can’t stand it for a few moments. You laughed
when your boyfriend acted dumb when you first started dating? You probably hate
him being always like that now...
Is love enough?
Every wrong relationship in this world has an end, but some
choose to suffer, thinking that ‘love’ is the most important thing, but it isn't.
The world feeds us so much crap about “happily ever after”; that people just
latch on to one person and think yeah, this is IT. There is SO much more to a
relationship than just love: - trust, understanding, caring, friendship, personal
boundaries; and the most important – respect and happiness! Why would you come
into a relationship in the first place if it didn't make you happy?
It is absolutely true that when a person first falls for
someone, it’s for their appearance. But it is also equally true that “Beauty
attracts the eye, but personality captures the heart”. So to say that one must
not be dazzled by the vessel, but try and find out what’s inside would be an
apt warning.
In the end, every wrong equation must be resolved, every
wrinkle straightened. If it means to end the relationship, so be it. Do not be
disheartened by this loss, look at it like a life experience. Your life never
depends on another person anyways, you are free to do what you want, feel what
you want, and be what you want. And you never know, love might just be waiting
for you around the corner ;)
I’m kidding, the world is round. You need to find that love
in yourself first, and then you may find someone who will love you for who you really
are. Besides, you weren't born committed, right?
Stay Awesome \m/
(All gifs from google images)
